Marriage: The Unsweetened Truth Religions Don’t Preach at Weddings
Marriage is for the Trained, Not the Trending Religious communities often prepare couples for weddings, not marriages. They teach prayer, fasting, and bed etiquette (sometimes), but skip the messy realities: conflict resolution, emotional intelligence, knowing when to shut up, and when to say sorry (even when you're not wrong—because peace is expensive).
Uganda Today Edition: Marriage: The Unsweetened Truth Religions Don’t Preach at Weddings
At every colorful Ugandan wedding, amid the ululations, flowers, and sermons about love, patience, and the mythical “two becoming one,” there lies an unspoken truth—an elephant in the banquet hall, elegantly dressed in kitenge but painfully silent. That truth? Marriage is not for the rebellious.
It’s a divine order, not a democracy. And yet, most religious institutions sugarcoat it to avoid offending modern sensibilities. But let’s face it: if more people were told the raw facts before signing marriage certificates, half the weddings wouldn’t happen—and maybe, just maybe, divorce lawyers would have fewer clients.
The Myth of the Empowered Rebel Wife
“Tell the women this,” a veteran elder whispered at a traditional ceremony in Luweero. “Marriage is not for wild horses.”
He wasn’t being sexist. He was being real.
If a woman wants total freedom, zero accountability, and starts every sentence with “as a strong independent woman…” she may want to stay in her father’s house—or better yet, open a solo YouTube channel. Marriage requires structure, not unchecked emotion; cooperation, not competition.
Submission is not slavery. It’s order. But of course, that’s a tough sell in an age where feminism is downloaded faster than wisdom.
Men, Listen Carefully (You Too Need Healing)
Now brothers, before you start high-fiving each other in agreement, remember: a title like “head of the home” doesn’t work if you behave like the tail of common sense.
Marriage isn’t for men who treat leadership as license to be lazy tyrants. If your daily contribution is limited to asking “what’s for supper?” while playing Ludo on your phone, you’re not a husband—you’re an inconvenience.
The truth is, marriage is not for immature boys in adult trousers, nor for stubborn girls wrapped in entitlement and hashtags.
Marriage is for the Trained, Not the Trending
Religious communities often prepare couples for weddings, not marriages. They teach prayer, fasting, and bed etiquette (sometimes), but skip the messy realities: conflict resolution, emotional intelligence, knowing when to shut up, and when to say sorry (even when you’re not wrong—because peace is expensive).
Marriage is for people who:
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Understand that “teamwork” means taking turns doing the dishes,
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Know that “respect” doesn’t begin and end with wedding rings,
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Realize that “order” in the home means someone has to lead and someone has to follow—without rebellion.
A Dose of Truth for the Modern Spouse
Let’s be honest: a rebellious spirit is cute on social media but destructive in marriage. No one wants to marry a co-president with daily voting sessions. If every decision is a debate, the home becomes a parliament, not a partnership.
If she can’t respect your leadership, she doesn’t need a husband—she needs a podium.
If he can’t handle your voice, your growth, or your strength without feeling threatened, he doesn’t need a wife—he needs therapy.
Final Word: Marry the Mission, Not the Mirage
Marriage is not an escape route from loneliness or economic hardship. It is a divine assignment with spiritual, emotional, and intellectual requirements. It works best when entered with clarity, humility, and the willingness to be molded—not to dominate.
So next time you attend a wedding, don’t just admire the outfits and the cake. Ask yourself:
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Can I follow without pride?
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Can I lead without abuse?
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Can I submit without losing my voice?
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Can I commit without rebellion?
If the answer is yes, you might just be ready for marriage.
If not… don’t worry. Instagram reels and TikTok dances await.
Editor’s Note: This article is presented in good humor but with underlying truth. Read with an open heart, not clenched fists. Marriage may be made in heaven, but it’s maintained on earth—with wisdom, not rebellion.
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